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50 ways to leave your lover

December 1, 2011

Sometimes it is difficult to stop a relationship, especially when you don’t want to hurt someone you have loved, but it is even more difficult to get over an affair when you still love the person. Anyway, what sort of things is it common to say to put an end to a relationship? How about “It’s not you, it’s me. I need to sort myself out”?. And what would you recommend to do to a friend who has just been dumped?


12 Comments leave one →
  1. nicapc permalink
    December 1, 2011 2:14 pm

    If you want to end your relationship in a polite way you can say :

    I’ve been observing recently that we have nothing in commom with each other.

  2. nicapc permalink
    December 1, 2011 3:23 pm

    If you want to give a piece of advice, you could always use this recurrent expression:

    This is not the end of he world, your life starts now !

  3. jesarqit permalink
    December 1, 2011 4:26 pm

    Advices come and goes, but the best medicine is time, and although you can´t push it to go faster, it helps to feel it speeding up by starting up new hobbies, getting back in touch with friends, meeting new people, participate in different activities, looking for new challenges, focusing on your career… All these things let time does its work.

  4. Noemí permalink
    December 1, 2011 7:48 pm

    I broke up 2 week ago with my boyfriend so… I can tell you that there is no a polite way to do it! You always hurt the other one. It’s true that there are different ways and some of them are better than the others but… It isnt exist anything that you can say to avoid hurting the other person.
    I agree with jesarqit that the best medicine is time and try to fill your time with new activities, meeting friends,…. That keeps your mind away of thinking about the past.

  5. December 1, 2011 10:42 pm

    In my opinion, there are always two points of view, if you are who dumps, or if you are who is dumped. Of course the second one is the worst ( if you love the person who dumps you…if you don´t, you are very lucky), but in this case it is important to remind that ” behind a mountain there is another mountain” or something like ” The sea is plenty of fishes”.
    But if you are who dumps, there is a one huge reason nobody will refute you ” I don´t love you”.

  6. Eugenia Ferrer Perez permalink
    December 2, 2011 1:03 pm

    I love all those expressions which signify that there are other choices and my favourite is ” you are not the only coke in the desert”.

  7. December 2, 2011 4:37 pm

    I think a good advice would be “don’t use a third person to do your dirty work”. The idea behind this is that the present girlfriend/boyfriend will eventually notice you are hanging out with someone else and break up with you. This is not the way to do it. If this is the way you face the problem, the other person should throw a party to celebrate being rid of you. Getting someone else to break is just the coward’s way out. Do it face-to-face.

  8. Vicente Hernándiz permalink
    December 2, 2011 7:07 pm

    The best is not to have to say anything.
    But if you are goig to say good-by it’s better to face the problem honestly and sincerely; it’s not important what you can say, almost nonsenses.
    And, of course, if you are who is dumped, there’s nothing to do. I think ……..

  9. December 2, 2011 11:50 pm

    from my point of view, there is not a good advice to give to one who wants to break up a reationship. The most important thing is to feel what’s inside our heart and letting it be clear to the other person. However, if I had to help somone who’s been dumped, I totally agree with jesarquit…”time cures everything” and time puts everybody in the right place” (I don’t know if this expression is right….why don’t we have a forum in this blog to discuss about the right or wrong sentences?)

  10. Jessica permalink
    December 3, 2011 12:21 am

    I think that the most important thing is to be honest without hurting the other person. We can get it treating our partner with respect and accepting our responsibility in the failure of the relationship. But at the same time, we should understand the break is always painful, especially to the person who is dumped. I agree with Jesarquit and Dante that time is necessary to face the break. Although a typical way to leave a lover is saying “I just want to be friends”, we can’t change feelings immediately.

  11. December 3, 2011 5:39 pm

    I totally agree with jesarquit when he tells that time is the best medicine. But this time is shorter if you haven’t given up your friends and hobbys while you are in a relationship.

    In my own experience, intervals between relationships have been the most exciting and foolish periods in my life.

  12. xelo permalink
    December 6, 2011 12:31 pm

    Break up a relationship is always an awful experience, unless it’s by join agreement, that it’s no very common. I agree whit Vicente that it’s better to face the problem sincerely and with jesarqit that the best medicine is time. But I also agree with Noemi that one of them always hurts the other one.
    In my opinion, the worst situation occurs when there are children involved. This decision becomes more difficult to take. In this context both are forced to maintain close ties because of children but, in too many cases, the relationship becomes a hell. It is so difficult to separate children of the couple problem? What do you think about it?

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